Making love with love

Making love with love

How is your love making? Is it a hasty get done affair? An outlet to your frustrations? A sadistic outrage? Or is it a rendezvous of love, passion and affection?

Lovemaking is considered one of life's highest callings. The ancient Hindus believed that life had three purposes: religious piety (dharma), material success (artha) and sexual pleasure (kama). All three were equal and the erotic was celebrated as the seat of earthly beauty. In the Hindu world the pursuit of sexual pleasure was revered as a religious quest.

How do you perceive your lovemaking? How much of a feeling goes into it? Love in lovemaking is what we are talking today. Lovemaking is more than just a physical act. It is the union of mind, heart and soul. One needs to care for the feelings of his/ her partner. This is not a selfish act, but a selfless act.

Sex in a loving, intimate relationship has numerous health benefits. In women, for example, the sexual act triggers the release of oxytocin. Oxytocin promotes feelings of affection and nurturing instinct. In men, sex encourages the flow of testosterone, which strengthens bones and muscles and helps transport DHEA, a hormone that may be important in the function of the body's immune system.

Lovemaking in a secure, loving and intimate relationship brings immense happiness and peace, which could lead to greater health and longer life. On the other hand a promiscuous sexual relationship may produce an opposite effect by introducing a sense of anxiety and fear.

Make lovemaking a beautiful experience for both. The feelings of both matters. Ask your partner if any of your ways bothers or annoys him/her. Care for their needs. There might be days when your partner is not in a mood. Try coaxing them through but if they are still not up to it, do not force or implement your needs on them. Loveless or forced sex can leave lasting scars on the mind. Your partner might lose the respect he or she has for you. Gentle and thoughtful attitude goes a long way in holding the two of you together.

Love in lovemaking is not only an important aspect for a good and healthy sex life, but is also important for a good and strong relationship. So go ahead and make love with love.

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Story first published: Friday, April 28, 2006, 16:24 [IST]

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