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Premarital Sex- Social And Personal Aspects

Premarital Sex- Social And Personal Aspects
 

Even though sex is an inborn inclination in everybody, society and the inner conscience raises sky-high barriers to prevent us to accomplish the basic needs of sex.

In the previous session the religious aspects of premarital sex were discussed. After all religion, society and conscience, play vital roles in deciding over the behavior, likeness and decisions of any person. Even though sex is an inborn inclination in everybody, society and the inner conscience raises sky-high barriers to prevent us to accomplish the basic needs of sex. If we look into the petty reasons given by anyone who wants to establish pre-marriage sex as a crime or sin, it is

crystal clear that they are just designed on the basis of selfish motives may be of a nation, a society or a religion and never considering the physical and psychical aspects of human beings.

[an error occurred while processing this directive] Let us look at pre-marriage sex from the social point of view. Few countries consider premarital sex as a punishable crime, some nations' take it is as an immoral act and there are some countries that see premarital sex just as a physical need like food and clothing. Why these differences of thought? Let us have a glimpse on the countries those prohibit or restrict premarital sex. They are mostly underdeveloped countries or developing countries. Those who do not see premarital sex as a physical need are the highly developed countries like USA and UK. In countries like India and other developing or underdeveloped countries the most alarming issue is population and poverty. If the population explodes into millions the only after-effect is the miserable starving and poverty. Thus the society has no other way than restricting the unmarried people from procreation by setting up moral standards and ethical issues. But in highly civilised countries people wish for their freedom and happiness than any morality or ethics.

Now see the role of conscience in pre-marriage sex. Does there really exist any conscience? Is conscience the voice of divinity within us as religions teach us? Conscience is like a pre-written computer program. When a child is born his/her conscience is a 'tabula rasa', means a blank slate, where the society and people write the concepts and so called rules on it, blended with ethics and morality with a shadow of spirituality, it becomes the conscience of anyone. When you need to take an action what you have learned and stored in your conscience pops up in your mind just like in a computer. Thus conscience has no super power attached to it. Thus the conscience of an average Indian would say that premarital sex will send him to sufferings in hell while an American's will say sex whether in marriage or premarital is a biological need and will refresh the minds.

The concept of virginity is at the extreme level among the people in India, though most of the so called virgins might have lost it even before attaining puberty. What do you mean by virginity? Everyone wants their wife or husband to be an untouched flower. Today in the society men and women live with equal status. Both travel together. Touch each other, hug each other and even kiss on various occasions. Does kissing cause a girl or boy to lose their virginity? If not how can a similar body contact but with a different body part take away the virginity of anybody, if at all there exists anything called as virginity? Virginity is a concept, moreover a fantasy or just fiction.

When you are thirsty, you drink water. When you are hungry, you eat food. Then why can"t you have sex when you are aroused? If drinking dirty water could cause you health problems you take precautionary measures. Then why can"t you use precautions, which are largely available at reach, instead of avoiding sex for baseless and senseless reasons. Each thirst of body is to be satisfied; so is sex. But when justifying premarital sex I do not want you to rush into streets and rape every man and woman you see. But if you love the presence of somebody and if she/he enjoys having sex with you; why do you then hesitate to enjoy the pleasure of sex which is the greatest gift to humanity?

Story first published: Monday, November 12, 2007, 16:38 [IST]

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