Love gave pain for them as they were wounded, wretched and sometimes enslaved by their lovers. They blended coarse atrocities, with the deepest expressions of erotic longing.
Ancient Roman poet Catullus, has written to his lady love , “I hate and I love. Perhaps you ask why I do that? I don"t know but I feel it happening and I am tormented."
This makes it impossible to stuff the dreams of the ideal couples of ancient poetry to today's romance. They can always remain as the playful and elegant poetry, but far removed from the contemporary Hallmark romance. But the depth of the intimacy expressed by ancients differ a lot from the exaggerated, superficial lovebites, in the contemporary expressions of love.