Do women Desire Forced Lovemaking?

There is a common myth that women secretly loves to be raped, even though facts and instances prove the other way. The word itself proves it an unwanted action. To go further deep into the concern, let us see the common definitions of rape. The various definitions of rape range from the broad to the specific. The crime of rape could be put under the more comprehensive term "sexual abuse." Sexual abuse or rape includes acts in which an individual is forced to engage in sexual activity by use of threats or other fear tactics, or instances in which an individual is physically unable to decline. If sexual activities take place with the wish and consent of both the partners, it could never be called

rape but lovemaking. It is crystal clear from the word rape itself that it is a forced act and no women wish to succumb themselves to the violence named rape.

But, it is a fact that in a realm of dreams most women wish to be raped in their fantasies, and only in fantasies. Rape fantasy is also known as 'seduction fantasy'. It is more over a self controlled dream. In dreams the dreamer has control over what is happening and is not experiencing the terror of someone invading or controlling her body. Even though the so called rape-fantasy happens with most women, in reality they do not want to be raped.

A rape fantasy is, as its name suggests, a fantasy about rape. It can go both ways like men who fantasize about raping, or women who fantasize about being raped. Surprisingly enough, the latter is much more common. Probably, someone who has been raped will never understand why anyone else will have a fantasy about it. Rape fantasies occur in both the male and female sexual fantasy realms, and their contents range from unwilling seduction to violent, forceful sex. The most commonly held theory about this phenomenon is that many individuals turn to fantasies about being raped as a means of reconciling naturally-occurring sexual desires with the intense negative stigma their culture or creed affix to sexual activity. The fantasy serves as a psychological device through which the fantasizer can safely indulge in intense sexual experiences without guilt, by absolving themselves of responsibility for participating in the act.

Rape fantasies can also represent an outlet for sexually submissive or dominant individuals. In such fantasies they can imagine themselves as having or lacking sexual control or power without actually participating in an illegal or immoral act. According to these socio biological theories of rape, rape fantasy fulfills a hereditary impulse in civilized society where real rape has become socially intolerable. It has been proposed that for some who have actually been sexually abused, rape fantasy may be a way to heal past wounds by exploring in a safe environment with a sense of control.

Fantasies are fantasies and unreal imaginations; but when it comes real life, no woman would like to undergo a rape, however sexually stimulated she is. Even though most women surrender themselves to male power when they are being raped, no woman go in search of a rapist to be raped to fulfill the secret fantasies. Rape itself is inhuman and wild, which is fully anti-social. Even the women who like wild or rough sex may not prefer a rape to satisfy their sexual hunger as rape is a violation over the individual freedom of a women and an open humiliation of her female existence.

Story first published: Wednesday, January 23, 2008, 12:23 [IST]
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