Some Trivia And Facts About Physical Love

Emotional Intelligence
After a recent study revealed that women with high emotional intelligence have better sex lives, psychologist Jo Maddocks and sex expert Susan Quilliam have come forward to give ladies with flagging libidos a boost.

Some of the important points the two psychologists have come forward are quite intriguing.

Everybody in the world share some kind of emotional intelligence:

"Everyone is born with a capacity for high levels of emotional intelligence, but this can change as we go through our general life, depending on what happens to us."

Coping Methods:

"We may lose touch with our emotions because they become too hard to address, stemming from our past experiences. This can then trigger in us to use coping methods which prevent us to think about them - such as getting angry, or staying quiet and bottling everything up - methods that can become addictive."

Bad Attitude:

"Building bad attitudes can also directly impact our relationships with other people too."

Negative Attitude:

"A negative attitude, poor body language and extreme reactions can shape the way people treat us too (even sexual partners) - making us feel even more isolated and troubled."

Acknowledgment plays an important role:

"It is acknowledging the emotions and stopping them from ruling our behaviour that gives us emotional intelligence".

Be cheerful, always:

"If you feel ignored or left out at work, for example, try saying hello to colleagues everyday as they walk in to gain a sense of belonging. If you find yourself getting extremely emotional, try acknowledging your feelings before they escalate into this."

Behavioral changes help:

"Making small behavioral changes can really help you regain control throughout your life. Quilliam said that having control of the emotions not only means being calmer and happier, it also means feelings won''t get in the way of sex lives."

Control your anger or you won't feel sexy:

"While those with anger problems, while sometimes ravenous for sex, can become so adamant on controlling their anger they stop feeling sexy."

Higher Emotional intelligence:

"Higher emotional intelligence means better relationships with others, which also applies in the bedroom too. If we are more willing to trust in bed, then again sex is going to be better. It's a virtuous circle."


Story first published: Wednesday, June 3, 2009, 16:14 [IST]

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